Finding the way back to each other

Внезапно интервью с супер мудрым человеком у любви и долгих отношениях.

My love for somebody will never make them choose me over them.

Моя любовь к кому-то никогда не заставит их выбрать меня вместо них.

no possesion 

no control
no ownership

The other person won't autocomplete you. You are always alone. If you are lucky, you will meet somebody who will walk

We are with each other because we want to be. Until we do not want to be.

You can love several persons at the same time. If you have this desires, you can talk to your partner. You can show your partner through actions and communication that you choose them.

Green flags:

The partner never asked you to change. They accept who you are.

He was always curious about who I was becoming. Never limits you of who you are.

The partner is curious about you.

Glitch pop!

 

Последние две недели ориентировалась только слушая эти песни вовремя

ну и это

Подремала днём так сладко, что, при пробуждении, пришлось в панике смотреть, пропустила ли я работу.

Но нет. Ночью занималась. Утром на работу. Потом дремала. Всё честно.

 такая милая песня, что полностью согласна с комментом:

Me before knowing the lyrics: 💃 

Me after knowing the lyrics: 💃

"Я ЗНАЮ ШО ТЫ ТАМ СИДИШЬ И *. ВПУСТИ МЕНЯ" ;_______; лооооооол 

Поскольку я сталкер, у меня СДВГ и, возможно, аутизм - я запуталась.

Обожаю своего друга. Но мы рассорились. 

Я хочу к нему вернуться потому что влюблена? Или потому что мы были клёвыми друзьями?

Или просто гиперфикс.

Погуглила, как любовь описывают другие АуСДВГ

it's a person that makes me feel good about myself, and is the person that I wanna share everything, my news, the musics I discover, the shows, the movies or literally anything 

Do I want this person in my life long term? Can I envision life with them as a life partner? Do I admire and value this person? Would I feel the loss if they were no longer in my life? Would I dislike if they started dating someone else? Those were more helpful guideposts for me rather than my own less reliable emotional responses.

I really enjoy him as a person, and I’m glad we’re together

My aunt always told me it feels like everything falling into place, and I felt that way when I started dating my current partner. He is home to me. 

Ну, теперь знаю чо это

https://www.reddit.com/r/AuADHD/comments/1se5adi/adhd_and_love/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AutismInWomen/comments/1injlpv/experiencing_being_in_love/

Сижу и плачу, потому что boy problems ;0;

Поплакала и пошла гуглить, любовь ли это вообще или просто какой-то гиперфокус СДВГшный.

https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/are-you-in-love-or-obsessed-quiz/result 

https://quizpanda.com/love-or-infatuation-are-you-really-in-love/

1. Прочитала

https://www.bolde.com/15-ways-to-tell-if-youre-in-love-or-just-trauma-bonded/

In love, there’s an underlying sense of safety that envelops you, like a comforting hug on a cold day. You know that even when disagreements arise, the foundation of your relationship is built on respect and understanding.

 Вот тут у меня с ним были проблемы:

6. Consistency Versus Chaos

11. Boundaries Versus Invasiveness

При этом, блин, мы не встречаемся. Но потенциал есть.

НО И НЕТ. МЫ РАССОРИЛИСЬ.

Но всё равно прочитала про сердечко:

"In the rush of excitement, it's easy to spend as much time as possible with the new partner, to the detriment of the rest of your life. This can push a relationship forward really quickly, which can be fun but also risky if you get too emotionally involved with someone before you really know them (and they know you). It can also set a bar really high that can be hard to sustain over the long run,"

https://www.verywellmind.com/qualities-of-healthy-relationships-2337785

https://www.relationalpsych.group/articles/how-autistic-people-experience-romantic-relationships-differently

https://www.verywellmind.com/verywell-loved-why-is-dating-with-adhd-so-hard-6823086