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Few people are logical.
Most of us are prejudiced and biased.
Most of us are blighted with preconceived notions, with jealousy, suspicion, fear, envy and pride.
And most citizens don't want to change their minds about their religion or their haircut or communism or their favorite movie star.

Тоже до этого дошла в общении. Читать это - бальзам для души.
Это глава о спорах и, действительно, всегда стоит спросить опонента о его точке зрения, потому что сам ты нелогичный, предвзятый и обладатель парочки предубеждений. Может ты где-то обобщил, где не надо было.

Понравился отрывок, который дал Карнеги из книги "On Becoming a Person"/ О становлении личности от автора Carl R. Rogers

I have found it of enormous value when I can permit myself to understand the other person.
The way in which I have worded this statement may seem strange to you, Is it necessary to permit oneself to understand another?
I think it is.
Our first reaction to most of the statements (which we hear from other people) is an evaluation or judgement, rather than an understanding of it.
When someone expresses some feeling, attitude or belief, our tendency is almost immediately to feel "that's right,"
or "that's stupid,"
"that's abnormal,"
"that's unreasonable,"
"that's incorrect,"
"that's not nice."
Very rarely do we permit ourselves to understand precisely what the meaning of the statement is to the other person.

И из "The Mind in the Making"/ Создание разума автора James Harvey Robinson:

We sometimes find ourselves changing our minds without any resistance or heavy emotion, but if we are told we are wrong, we resent the imputation and harden our hearts.
We are incredibly heedless in the formation of our beliefs, but find ourselves filled with an illicit passion for them when anyone proposes to rob us of their companionship.
It is obviously not the ideas themselves that are dear to us, but our self-esteem which is threatened.
...
The little word "my" is the most important one in human affairs, and properly to reckon with it is the beginning of wisdom.
It has the same force whether it is "my" dinner,
"my" dog, and "my" house, or "my" father,
"my" country, and "my" God.
We not only resent the imputation that our watch is wrong, or our car shabby, but that our conception of the canals of Mars, of the pronunciation of "Epictetus,"
of the medicinal value of salicin, or of the date of Sargon I is subject to revision.
We like to continue to believe what we have been accustomed to accept as true, and the resentment aroused when doubt is cast upon any of our assumptions leads us to seek every manner of excuse for clinging to it.
The result is that most of our so- called reasoning consists in finding arguments for going on believing as we already do.